#Me Too tag – that’s all I’ve been seeing all around me for the past couple of weeks now. It’s the new craze, new frenzy gone “viral” – of something that’s been happening from so many years all over the world, but which people only realized when a major Hollywood hot-shot was cornered!!
It irritates me, makes me impatient, angry!!
No, don’t get me wrong. I know what it is to be abused..Oh yes, I know it very, very well. I know it’s effects, I know how much permanent damage it can do. I know how these monsters of the mind creep up suddenly on you, years after it has all happened.
But do I want that to be my label, my identifying factor, do I want to proclaim to the whole world – that “Treat me different, Look at me different, I am different, because #Me too”??
No!! Definitely not!!
That phase of my life does not define me. I refuse to give so much importance to that part of my life that I need to label myself on the basis of it.
And all the ladies out there who think they belong to the same fraternity because – “We are all sisters”, – let me tell you my experience.
During my long, painful years stretching more than a decade, there was not a single individual belonging to my gender who stood up for me. They were there – as part of the perpetrators, they were there – as instigators. They were there – eagerly drinking in on my miserable stories around the table, or water cooler only to giggle and gossip over it. (A Feminist? Not I… )
Apart from my parents (I cannot thank God enough that I have them in my life), it was a man – who gave me the courage, who made me believe that I did not have to take it like this, that I could give it back. That I could walk away from it all.
No.. not a woman, it was a man who helped me to the point from where I could redefine myself.
I refuse to confirm to labels which define standards of hypocrisy.
Counting and data analyzing the number of people who are “#Me Too”s does not serve them any purpose.
How many of you are really doing anything to prevent many more of them? How many of you would take it upon yourself to actually give someone the courage and support to walk out, to not put up with it, to not suffer in silence? How many of you would not use it to spice up your gossip circles?
Define yourself as #Me Too – but not as a label of what happened.
Define it as a label to show that “I too helped someone get out of it”.
Can you do that??